Before Opening the Door, Look in the Mirror
By Susan Fiandach and Connie Wake
My grandfather used to say: “Don’t just look at the mirror, look into it” --Susan Fiandach
We have spent many years in the psychic-medium community—offering readings, teaching classes, and operating a psychic center. Over that time, we've witnessed extraordinary experiences, profound personal growth, and, at times, heartbreaking misunderstandings.
People arrive at spirituality from countless directions. Some are curious. Some are searching. Some have experienced loss. Others simply feel there must be more to life than what can be measured. There is no single path into psychic-medium development.
One observation has remained remarkably consistent through the years:
The quality of the psychic journey is often determined by the quality of the mirror through which we see ourselves.
When that mirror is reasonably clear, psychic development becomes a process of self-discovery. New experiences are integrated into an already healthy sense of identity. Moments of intuition, meaningful coincidence, and spiritual connection don't replace reality—they enrich it. The person becomes more grounded, more compassionate, and often more emotionally resilient than before.
Sometimes the mirror simply reflects who we already are. Growth comes slowly. There is nothing wrong with that. Development doesn't require dramatic transformation.
But sometimes the mirror is distorted.
Like the mirrors in a carnival fun house, it bends reality until what we see confirms our fears, wounds, or expectations. Trauma, unresolved grief, anxiety, depression, personality struggles, or other emotional and mental challenges can all distort how we interpret our experiences. Genuine intuitive impressions become mixed with projection. Personal beliefs become mistaken for spiritual certainty. The search for meaning quietly turns into an escape from reality.
This is not a character flaw, nor is it a spiritual failure. It is simply a reminder that our psychological well-being and our spiritual development are inseparable.
For this reason, we often say something that surprises people: Everyone has the capacity to explore their psychic nature. Not everyone is in the best place to do it right now.
Psychic development is not an alternative to healing. It should never replace sound mental health care, counseling, therapy, or appropriate medical treatment. In fact, those things often create the very foundation that allows authentic spiritual growth to occur.
The ancient instruction, "Know Thyself," remains one of the wisest teachings ever given.
Sometimes knowing yourself means sitting quietly in meditation.
Sometimes it means asking difficult questions.
Sometimes it means working with a trusted mentor.
And sometimes it means sitting in a therapist's office.
All of those paths can be deeply spiritual.
We believe the healthiest psychic-medium development doesn't ask people to leave reality behind. It asks them to become more fully present within it. The clearer the mirror becomes, the clearer the intuitive information becomes—not because the universe changed, but because the person looking into the mirror did.
ABOUT THE AUTHORS:
Susan Fiandach and Connie Wake are professional psychic-mediums, teachers of psychic-medium studies and co-authors of “Everyday Conversations: The Key to the Contemporary Medium – Unlocking the Myths” and “The Student Guide to the Daily Medium – Unlocking Your 6th Sense.” Some language and structural support for this article were contributed by ChatGPT (OpenAI). All final content, perspectives and experiences of Susan Fiandach and Connie Wake. Susan and Connie can be contacted through The Purple Door, 3259 Winton Rd South, Rochester NY. 585-427-8110. Visit their website - http://www.PurpleDoorSoulSource.com
